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How to calm a baby when. Childhood stubbornness is normal for children over two years old. Colic and bowel movements

26.01.2020

Any mother knows how important healthy and proper sleep is for a newborn child. The first 4 weeks of his life, he almost completely spends in the arms of Morpheus. At the same time, the rhythm of vital activity of his body is not much different from the intrauterine one. For him, there is no division into day and night, so familiar to adults. This explains the fact that the baby regularly wakes up, attracting attention with a demanding cry, regardless of the time of day. He was hungry, “went to the toilet,” or simply worried in his sleep and needs the warmth and safety of his mother's hands. In any case, children's health depends on the sensitive participation of the mother and her boundless patience.

Why is a newborn naughty?

The baby has plenty of reasons for concern. The challenge for mom is to learn to understand what worries him and quickly eliminate irritants.

Usually, children are capricious for the following reasons:

  • incorrectly put on a diaper or its untimely replacement;
  • hunger or thirst;
  • skin irritation;
  • overexcitation;
  • abnormal temperature conditions in the room;
  • tight swaddling or linen discomfort;
  • intestinal upset, colic, gas;
  • uncomfortable body position;
  • light, noise;
  • lack of hygiene;
  • meteosensitivity.

In fact, this list can be continued for a long time. We must not forget that in addition to external causes, internal ones may be present: diseases. But this probability should be considered after all annoying factors have been eliminated.

How to calm a newborn baby when he is crying?

So, the first few weeks of life, the child is extremely sensitive to everything. This is not surprising, because earlier he was in the womb for 9 months, where it is warm, dark, calm and there is always something to eat. Getting into the outside world, he needs the most comfortable conditions for adequate adaptation. And their organization rests entirely on the shoulders of the mother.

Top Causes of Infant Anxiety hunger or unclean diaper... Based on this, in order to calm the crying baby, the first thing is to check the diaper, after which it is offered to eat. As a rule, after changing clothes and feeding the baby, the baby falls asleep calmly.

There are a number of nuances regarding food. The mechanism of breast milk replenishment is elementary: the more the little one eats, the more intensively the mother's mammary glands work, trying to satisfy his needs. If at every feeding you feel that there is enough milk and, when full, the baby falls asleep, everything is in order. However, there are often cases when the crumb does not have enough available quantity. Here it is worth thinking about additional pumping of milk in order to increase the intensity of its production or about choosing a formula for supplementary feeding. A pediatrician will help in this matter. The main thing is that the baby is always full.

Even when the diaper is changed regularly, diaper rash... If the baby screams despite fullness and dryness, it may be because of irritation on the skin. You can relieve painful sensations with a special soothing cream. The baby should be washed, dried with a soft towel and treated with the irritated area. You can let him lie down for a while without a diaper so that the cream is absorbed and relieves pain.

Particular attention should be paid to children's clothing. First, only natural fabrics. Secondly, underwear must be 100% cotton. This will prevent allergic reactions. In the summertime, it is best to use the lightest and most loose clothing possible. Sometimes the baby screams if it is swaddled too tightly, or the fabric has formed uncomfortable folds. It is also important to monitor the position of the baby. In the first weeks of life, his movements are very limited, and he is not able to move independently. It is important to ensure that it lies on a flat, level and warm surface.

Often the cause of concern is inappropriate room temperature... In winter, the heating can work too intensively, as a result of which the air becomes suffocating, which means that you should ventilate the room, having previously moved with the crumbs to another place. A special humidifier is of great help. In summer, the situation is more difficult to fix if there is no air conditioning in the house. The solution will be to free the baby from diapers or excess clothing. When the room is too hot, leave it without clothes, put it on a special baby oilcloth and cover it with a thin light blanket or even a diaper. To make it easier to sleep, bathing in warm water will be useful.

Intestinal colic can cause severe crying. Usually, to eliminate abdominal pain, it is enough to gently stroke the baby's tummy in a clockwise direction or put a warm diaper on the stomach. If bloating is observed, it is most likely a gas problem. In this case, a simple exercise will help calm the child: bend the baby's legs at the knees and gently press them to the stomach.

It is important to exclude loud sounds... Very bright light can cause anxiety. If, despite the fact that the baby is fed and dressed, he is still capricious, mom should take him on her arms, gently shake him, try to calm him down. For a newborn, constant physical contact with the mother is extremely important. If he doesn’t sleep well in a separate bed, he may fall asleep well with his mother.

So, how to calm a newborn child (in order of importance, go to the next point if the previous one did not work):

  • find out if it is necessary to change the diaper (change every 2-3 hours);
  • offer the baby to eat;
  • carefully examine the baby for irritations (groin, neck, etc.);
  • pick up (try to rock, sing a lullaby, walk around the room, etc.);
  • if the baby is too wrapped up, dress him up easier; if you feel that the arms and legs are cool, most likely, it is frozen - put on warmer;
  • gently feel the tummy: if there is a painful reaction, possibly colic - take appropriate measures, see colic in a child; if the tummy is inflated and firm to the touch, do an exercise to combat intestinal gas;
  • does not fall asleep during the day in any way - cover the window with a curtain and eliminate extraneous sounds.

Don't overlook the likelihood of a child meteosensitivity... The baby can strongly react to rain, frost, blizzard, wind. In this case, despite the fact that there are no external stimuli, he will shrill, jerk his legs, often spit up, not fall asleep, or refuse to eat at all. If there are no other reasons, and the weather is raging outside the window, most likely there is a reaction to it. To soothe a newborn, sometimes it is enough to caress, sing a lullaby quietly or turn on calm music. In some cases, a warm relaxing bath and light massage can help.

The first month of life is the most difficult and responsible for parents. Their main enemy during this period is excessive fear, due to which it is common to exaggerate any little thing. In order to survive this time with the least damage to your nervous system, you first need to be patient and be as attentive as possible to your baby. Literally a couple of weeks will pass, and you will learn with 100% accuracy to determine what His or Her Majesty is unhappy with and what needs to be done so that he / she is again in a good mood.

It should be remembered that if, despite all efforts, the newborn does not calm down and behaves strangely - screams, cries, etc. - you must immediately seek medical help.

  1. Wrap your baby in a blanket (follow the steps below). It will subside when it feels warm and safe.
  2. Rock the baby. Sit with him in a rocking chair, place your baby in a sling, or simply rock it in your arms. Smooth, rhythmic movements will help calm him down.
  3. Let the baby jump. Be very careful. Rock it gently from side to side.
  4. Sing a song. Baby's audio sensors are sensitive to music.
  5. Adjust environmental conditions. Change the lighting or temperature in the room. Perhaps a walk in a stroller or carrier will help.
  6. Install a natural or artificial sedative.

ATTENTION. Never shake your child. You need to download it very carefully. Shaking can cause malfunctions.

How to wrap a baby in a blanket

Sometimes you need to wrap your baby in a blanket. Your model may be reassured by a feeling of warmth and security, or, conversely, she may be unhappy with a sudden limitation of movement. Try the different swaddling techniques on the following pages and track your baby's reactions.

ATTENTION. Swaddling constrains the baby's movements and inhibits the development of his motor system, so full swaddling is not recommended in the first 60 days of life. At this age, it is best to use those methods in which the baby's arms remain outside, for example, a modified "Burrito roll".

Quick swaddling

Quick swaddling - efficient techniqueif you are limited in time. Use a blanket that can be completely wrapped around the baby.

  1. Place the square blanket on a flat surface.
  2. Lay your baby diagonally on a blanket with the fold over the top of the neck.
  3. Wrap the right side of the blanket around the baby's body. Tuck in on the left.
  4. Wrap the left side of the blanket around the baby's body. Fold to the right.
  5. Pick up the baby and fold lower part blankets under his legs and back.

"Burrito roll"

Burrito Roll is a safer (and more durable) variation of the method described above. When wrapped in the Burrito Roll technique, a child in a blanket will resemble a popular Mexican snack - a tortilla with meat or bean filling.

  1. Place the square blanket on a flat surface. It should be large enough to wrap the baby completely.
  2. Fold one corner downward about the length of your brush.
  3. Place the baby diagonally on the blanket with the fold over the top of his neck (fig. A).
  4. Place the baby's arms under the fold of the blanket. His hands should be at shoulder or face level. (If your toddler is very active, you can tuck the blanket under his armpits to keep the arms movable.)
  5. Wrap the right side of the blanket around the baby's body. Tuck in on the left (Fig. B).
  6. Fold the bottom of the blanket up (towards the baby's head), covering the legs and overlapping the right fold of the blanket. Fold the bottom under the top of the right fold (figure B).
  7. Wrap the left side of the blanket around the baby's body. Fold to the right (fig. B).

Selection and installation of a sedative (nipples)

Many users use sedatives to calm their baby. Sucking them gives the model great pleasure. The natural remedy is the little finger or thumb. The faux one can be bought at a baby store: it's made from latex or silicone and looks like a bottle nipple. Both tools are quite suitable for models. Their use does not lead to any medical or psychological malfunction.

SPECIALIST'S ADVICE. Make sure that the baby does not confuse the nipple with the mother's nipple. Overuse of artificial nipples can make your toddler forget how to suck breast milk... In general, we recommend avoiding the nipple for the first 2 months of life. If during the following months the child develops the above problem, it is worth limiting or reducing the use of the nipple.

  1. Purchase pacifiers from the store. They come in a variety of sizes and shapes. Try a few different ones to see which look is most compatible with your model.
  2. Sterilize the nipple. Wash with soap and immerse in a pot of boiling water for 5 minutes. Examine it for water getting inside. If so, squeeze the water out of the teat (if possible) or wait for it to evaporate.
  3. Insert the tip of the nipple into your baby's mouth.
  4. Test a row of nipples. When you figure out which variety works best for your model, put one nipple each in the crib, in your diaper bag, in your car, in your pocket, and leave a few more in different places in your home.
  5. Replace old worn out nipples.

ATTENTION. Do not hang the pacifier around your baby's neck on a rope or braid, do not expose him to the danger of suffocation.

ATTENTION. Nipples are used to calm your baby between feeds, but not as a meal replacement. Lack of food can lead to malfunction of the child.

Many healthcare providers agree that massage strengthens the immune system and stimulates muscle development and growth in the baby. It has a calming effect and allows the user to establish a strong bond with the baby.

The only tools required for this procedure are parental hands. The massage is performed with gentle rubbing or stroking movements. Place your baby face up on a hard, flat, comfortable surface and keep the room warm. Strip your toddler if he doesn't mind.

  1. Massage the baby's legs and arms. Start at your hips and work your way down to your toes. Massage your legs in turn.
  2. Massage your lower abdomen. Your palm should be flat with your fingers extended. Pat your baby's tummy in a circular motion.
  3. Massage your breasts. The palm should be flat, fingers extended. Pat your baby's chest. Start in the center and work your way up to the arms.
  4. Massage your arms and hands. Start at your shoulders and work your way up to your toes. Massage the handles in turn.
  5. Massage your baby's face. Use your thumbs to stroke your face in a circular motion, then gently run your fingertips over it.
  6. Place the baby on the tummy. Massage his back. Rub your shoulders, then work your way down on both sides of your back. Try not to touch your spine.
  7. Finish the massage: turn the baby on his back and lightly brush your fingers up and down the entire body. This will let him know that the procedure is over. If you do not have time for each of the steps described above, such a final stage is still required.

ATTENTION. Massaging the lower abdomen may result in the discharge of urine or gas. Before doing it, lay an oilcloth under the baby.

SPECIALIST'S ADVICE. There are infant massage courses taught by certified instructors. For more information, contact your local health center or childcare center.


From the very moment of its birth to the development of speech, crying is the only acoustic way in which a child can convey his requests or indignations to adults. For infant crying actually replaces conversation - through it he informs that something is bothering him. Crying is not needed to build character or train your lungs. On the contrary, he strains the nursery nervous system, makes the baby doubt the friendliness and safety of the world around him. And crying too long can even directly harm the child - cause an umbilical hernia.
Babies cry regularly, however, the more parents communicate with them, the less intensity, frequency and duration of crying. According to statistics, the most "whiny" time of day is from 16 to 20 hours.

What if the baby is crying a lot?

You should react to the cry of a baby immediately: take it in your arms, attach it to your chest and start rocking it, and in general, use any available way to calm it down. The quickest baby calms down in a mother's arms... Then eliminate all possible inconveniences for him. At the same time, the mother herself must demonstrate calmness to the baby, then her confidence will be transferred to him. Mom will gradually learn to distinguish different types crying.
The child, by the way, and the father can and should also be trusted more often. Often, boys calm down much faster in their dad's arms than in their mother's. Perhaps men react more calmly to baby crying and therefore convey their equanimity to crumbs.
You should not be afraid of the child getting used to the hands. Crying always reflects a real problem. Crying baby is experiencing stress, and parents should relieve his well-being in any way. After a month, the baby is already forming a feeding, sleep and wakefulness regimen, so the cause of crying can already be associated with the time when it occurs.

How to calm babies up to 3 months old?

Harvey Karp Method

What are the reasons for crying in very tiny children? Upset or frightened? Parents who are tired of prolonged motion sickness and chronic lack of sleep can try the method of the American Harvey Karp.
First, according to the old tradition, the baby should be swaddled tightly, pressing his hands to the body so that the fabric slightly squeezes the baby's body. The baby will perceive this position as a presence in the mother's womb, cramped, but warm and calm. You also need to dim the lights in the room for a more comfortable atmosphere and put the baby next to you. If even the diaper does not help, then the baby needs to be turned on one side, put the forearm under the head and put your palm on the tummy. The baby will lean forward slightly. In this position, he will calm down faster, since he was almost also located in the womb. Mom's palm, slightly pressing on the intestines of the crumb, relieves him of discomfort and colic.
If the baby continues to whimper, then you can rock him.You need to press it with your back to your body, and support the head with your palm. Then the baby will lie sideways on the hand, and from below it can be supported with the other hand to hold it in this position. Walking slowly around the room or standing still, the child needs to be rocked, as if he is in a cradle. The movements should be smooth, with a small amplitude, so that they resemble the baby's vibrations in the mother's womb when she turned in bed or walked.
While in the uterus, the fetus hears the work of the mother's intestines, and a muffled noise from the outside in the form of an indistinct hiss flies to it. Therefore, even restless and capricious babies calm down when they hear the hiss of the mother rocking them. First, she says "Shhhh" loudly to attract the attention of the baby, and then she lowers the volume as the baby calms down.
Sometimes babies are silent, but they are not going to sleep. Then, in order to avoid repeated tantrums, you need to use the strong sucking reflex, which 3-6 month old babies have, and offer the baby a pacifier or breast. The baby falls silent for a while, giving the mother a break from his cry. This technique is effective for children no older than 3-4 months. Swaddling with motion sickness is often sufficient. Well, if the baby continues to be hysterical, then you can use all the listed techniques at once.

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Causal actions

Since young parents are still poor at guessing the needs of the baby, they may miss some details of his "signals". Creases in the sheet, too hard mattress, slipped blanket, unnoticed irritation on the skin can bring the crumb to hysterics.
The screaming baby needs to be taken out of the crib and undressed, check the diaper and let him lie down naked for 10-15 minutes. In the meantime, carefully examine the baby's skin in the area of \u200b\u200bthe buttocks and legs, back and armpits. Discovered areas with redness should be treated, first with boiled water or chamomile decoction, and then lubricated with fortified baby cream or powdered with powder. Irritation of the skin causes the baby to burn and itch, so he cannot sleep. The use of baby cosmetics will help calm the child and relieve unpleasant symptoms.
The child can also cry from hunger, pull hands to the mother, insistently and demandingly scream. Babies grow quickly, and with them their appetite grows, so it is not surprising that, after having a solid dinner, the baby will ask for supplements in half an hour. One has only to bring him to his chest and feed him, as he immediately calms down and falls asleep.
Since the thermoregulation of infants is still weak, at night they can wake up from heat or cold and begin to be capricious. If the crumbs have a hot nose and back, and the room is hot, then you need to undress it as much as possible, and use a sheet instead of a blanket. If his tummy and nose are cold, then, on the contrary, he should be changed into something warmer or covered with a warm blanket.

How to calm babies from 4 months to 1 year old?

Like adults, children have nightmares in their dreams. And if at night they start to get hysterical, then perhaps the baby dreams that his parents left him alone and went somewhere. The screaming baby should be immediately picked up, shaken and tried to calm down. You can talk to him or sing a song. Mom's quiet affectionate voice will distract the baby from the terrible visions and gradually put it to sleep.
3-4 month old babies love to sit and sleep in the "kenguryatnik".Here they can snuggle against the mother's breast and hear the beating of her heart. In such an elastic cocoon it is safe, comfortable, warm and cramped. Mom can put on such a device during the day, put the child in it and go for a walk. Many babies are attracted by the noise of busy streets and passing cars, which displaces hysteria, and the baby even falls asleep.
A typical picture is a child crying in the middle of the night, but there is simply no strength to rock him. What to do? Desperate mothers turn on the TV, where they choose a channel with moving characters and vivid pictures. The kid can be distracted by what is happening on the screen, calm down and gradually fall asleep. Although such training from childhood to television will not bring anything good, even if mom can get enough sleep. Instead of a TV, it is better to distract the attention of the crumb with a bright wrapping paper or a package, which you can give the baby to touch, wrinkle and then hang over his crib.
Dancing can also calm a child down.A mother with a baby in her arms begins to hum and whirl around the room, swing it in different directions, turn it and gently throw it up. The kid really likes these "roller coasters", he will quickly cheer up and forget about the reasons for his cry. After he calms down, he can be given a bottle of formula or a pacifier so that he does not try to throw another tantrum.
During a tantrum, kids open their mouths wide, swallowing air that enters the digestive system and causes colic. If the cry continues for more than 5 minutes, and the baby does not stop, then it should be turned vertically, giving an opportunity to regurgitate.
Sometimes the baby cries for no apparent reason, for example, due to lack of parental attention. Mom may be exhausted by that moment and only dreams of sleeping at least half an hour, but the baby requires care and affection continuously. You can lie down with a crying baby and start talking to him about anything. The meaning of the text for the kid is still incomprehensible, but the familiar timbre and intonation are important, which soothe the best.

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How to calm children 2 to 4 years old?

When babies have colic and finish cutting teeth, it is too early for parents to relax. Two-year-olds have their own reasons for tantrums:

  • mom didn't give sweetness;
  • hungry or not hungry;
  • the baby is tired but cannot sleep;
  • did not like the clothes;
  • does not want to go for a walk or return from a walk.

The baby has bad mood there is always a reason to throw a tantrum. Although mom in such cases is already tense to the limit herself and is ready for a quick reprisal, but it is better for her to keep calm:

  • Let's cry later.You need to kneel down, look into the eyes of the baby and ask him to calm down - after all, soon the sun will set and it will become dark and scary. Children, on the other hand, do not ride on a swing at night, but sleep. You can cry tomorrow if you want to. A child is often convinced by this logic, he agrees to "wait" until tomorrow, calms down and gradually falls asleep.
  • Sleeping dad. If the baby does not want to calm down for a long time and cries, then you can hug him and say that, of course, he has the right to cry, but it is better to do it quietly, because a tired or sick dad is sleeping next to him, who cannot be woken up. The kid does not want to upset his beloved dad and the scream moderates, and then completely subsides.
  • Fast reaction. Not getting what you want or offended by something, the little one is already ready to burst into tears. You can nip the nascent hysterics at the root by offering to turn on your favorite cartoons, see what the pussy is doing, find out who is rustling in the closet, count the leaves on the bushes. You need to offer decisively so that the baby does not have time to cry. Children's attention easily switches to more interesting topics, and the drama never has time to unfold.
  • Bad item. If the baby hits something, then the “culprit” needs to be “punished” - let the baby spank him himself, and then rush to his mother so that she kisses the bruised place.

Reasons for concern

  • If your baby cries while feeding, then, perhaps, his ears, nose, mucous membranes of the mouth or throat hurt.
  • If the baby cries during urination, then you need to show it to the doctor and check the ureter and kidneys.
  • If a child cries when he poops, then, again, you need to show it to the pediatrician, who will send him for an examination of the rectum. Otherwise, he may begin to be afraid of the bowel movement process - psychological constipation will arise.
  • Having slept during the day, the child wants to communicate with his parents at night and starts screaming. He is frightened by strangers and unfamiliar surroundings.
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An emotional outburst in a child puts almost every adult into a stupor (especially if this is an adult, a young parent). So it was with me. When Maxim “exploded” sometimes, I naively thought that it was temporary and would soon pass. But the older my baby got, the more often “something” appeared in him ...

He had more and more reasons for sobbing: he received only half an apple instead of a whole; not allowed to lick the floor; took away the scissors! In general, the list was impressive and constantly updated.

At some point, the tantrums stopped putting me into a stupor, but they began to greatly annoy me. And this irritation poured out on his own son (dear blood!). I had to urgently study the material.

"Hysterics is a natural stress release mechanism," says child psychologist Elizaveta Filonenko. It turns out that this is a physiological process and this is the norm. This knowledge calmed me a little - everything is fine with my son. The psychologist explains that the baby's brain is not yet developed to contain its emotions. IN early age hysteria is a manipulation and it does not arise out of the blue, as it seemed to me. Elizaveta Filonenko in the book “Raising a Child from 1 to Three Years.

Reboot ”states that such a“ flash ”occurs when the child already understands that with its help he gets what he requires. The slogan: "All the best for children" - spoils the baby (by the way, I have long suspected it). "The child gets used to the fact that the demonstration of anger and suffering leads to the fact that his desires are fulfilled." Such experience of communication is fixed for many years and can pass into adulthood ...

So, my top methods for dealing with child tantrums.

How to calm a child during a tantrum

  1. Take the child to a place where there are no witnesses. "One person is always enough to support and calm the child." The kid does not need all relatives, only one person, it is better if it is mom or dad.
  2. Be there. The kid is afraid to be alone with his emotions. The only time you can move away is if you cannot control yourself. (Once, during a hysteria, I closed the door to the room and my son started screaming even harder: he asked me not to leave. But I realized that later ...).
  3. No explanation! A child during a hysteria cannot perceive information. I also made this mistake: I explained that this is not how you behave. In general, I was sure that the baby is able to calm down quickly (as you can imagine, I was wrong ...).
  4. Hug! If he fights, hug from behind and stroke him. This will help him calm down.
  5. Don't shout or hit! (I don’t need to explain why). When I cannot restrain my emotions, I repeat out loud: "He is not guilty, he is not guilty, he is still small, he needs help." These phrases help me cool down emotionally. There is also advice to breathe deeply, but it does not help me - I need to speak at this moment, and not be silent.
  6. You are calm - the child is calm (how simple it sounds, right?). First of all, show your composure. The kid, looking at you, will calm down (and here again the 5th point will help you).
  7. Stand your ground. If the hysteria happened because of the ban, then there is no need to cancel it. If the child realizes that tantrums work, then they will become demonstrative. If you want to change the ban, then do it in a calm environment.
  8. Voice your feelings! The kids still do not understand their feelings, so we need to say to them: "you are tired, you feel bad, you feel hurt, you are upset and I understand you."
  9. After a tantrum, no need to demand an apology and start debriefing. Children under three years old will not understand what you want from them, and for children over three years old, you need to find another time.

"For frequent repetitions of tantrums, parents are usually responsible," warns the psychologist.

And if the child often throws tantrums, then you need to:

  • Strictly observe the daily regimen.
  • Exclude telephone and TV.
  • Temporarily do not take your baby to noisy places.
  • Play with a child with natural materials: sand, stones, water.
  • Add sedatives to the bath 1 - 2 times a week.

In no case should the TV be used to feed and calm the child - establish emotional contact with the child. Don't trust his soulless technique at such moments.

If tantrums have become frequent, the psychologist advises to start a "diary of hysterics." Describe all the details: when, how, under whom and under what circumstances the hysteria occurs. And soon you will identify the circumstances that are causing the emotional breakdown. For example, if a baby cries in public places, then, most likely, he gets tired faster in crowded places. Therefore, it is better not to take it with you to shops, on a visit or to public events.

Thanks to these tips, after a while I breathed a sigh of relief and looked at my son's tantrums from a different angle: my eyes stopped twitching (in the literal sense!), My hair does not stand on end (this is already in a figurative way), and a clear plan appeared in my head action. Now I can not only adequately respond to an emotional outburst, but also help the baby to cope with the feelings that have gripped him (along with my own).

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Newborn or infant up to 1 month

Reasons for constant crying in a nursing month-old baby there is always enough, and not always parents can quickly determine what exactly worries him.

Most of the time, babies scream when they need food or a diaper change, but there are a number of other reasons.

If the baby screams for a long time without stopping and it is not possible to calm him down, it is important first of all to make sure that his basic needs are met.

You should also measure his body temperature, examine his ears (it is important to press on the tragus: if the baby develops otitis media, after pressing it, he will start screaming harder), check for colic, determine if it is necessary to ventilate the room.

If there are no obvious reasons for an infant cry, nervous overexcitation can be suspected.

How to calm an overexcited baby if he is constantly crying? Recommendationsto eliminate nervous overexcitation in babies less than one year of age:


It is important to see a doctor if the child cannot be reassured. Also, a visit to the doctor is necessary if the baby cries for no apparent reason on a regular basis.

Hyperactive toddler

It is important for parents to be patient and to approach all the child's requirements from a rational point of view, and, if necessary, consult a psychologist.

Also, whims can be a way to test how much pressure you can put on your parents. Standard situation: hysteria in the toy store. If the parent, unable to bear the screams, gives up and buys what they want, the child will understand that it works, and then throw a tantrum again.

Tips for calming down in similar situations:

  • don't change your mind.Stand your ground no matter what happens;
  • keep calm.Aggression, perhaps, will help muffle a one-time tantrum, but it will negatively affect the child's psyche;
  • offer a replacement.Remind that the child has a wonderful home new toy, tell him you will play with him later;
  • get out of the child's sight. A child in hysterics needs spectators. If no one is around, he will calm down;
  • distract him.Works well with children younger age... Show him his own toy, play something.

If, for example, a child wants to go to kindergarten in his favorite light jacket, tell him that he will catch a cold because it is cold outside.

Sometimes clarity can help: say you agree (be sure to focus on the fact that you had to wear warm, because it's cold), and dress him as usual, and on the way, ask a couple of times how he feels.

If he complains about discomfort, remind him of what to wear. warm jacketbut he didn't want to. Of course, this should be done in cases where it will clearly not threaten his health.

Before bedtime

Basic tips:

  1. An hour or two before bedtime, try not to allow outdoor games, watching cartoons, especially long ones, films, computer games. Such activities can provoke overexcitement, and it will be more difficult for the child to calm down.
  2. Observe the daily routine. If your child is used to going to bed and getting up at the same time, it will be easier to put him to bed.
  3. Create evening rituals. These rituals can be taking a bath (with herbs), massage, eating certain foods, reading stories aloud.

Even if your family doesn't have any evening rituals, reading a book or gentle massage can help your child calm down. It is also important not to make trouble in the presence of the child, not to raise your voice at him.

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In kindergarten

How can a caregiver calm rabid screaming children?

Screaming crowd of children in kindergarten sometimes it is difficult to calm down even an experienced teacher, therefore, some educators may resort to incorrect methods of calming down (for example, loud shouting, insults).

  1. Make sure children are always busy and supervised. If children have nothing to do, and there has been no change of activity for a long time, they can begin to entertain themselves. If the teacher walked away for ten minutes, leaving a crowd of children with an inexperienced student in practice, this can also lead to the fact that the children start running and screaming: usually the group, accustomed to their teacher and his way of working, listens to him well.
  2. Pay attention to yourself. Speak in a calm voice, making sure it is firm, not soft or too loud. You can draw attention to yourself with the help of musical instruments (hit the drum, ring the bell, play the pipe). Immediately in the process, invite them to play and take control of the situation.
  3. Change the activity of the children if it has not changed for a long time.For example, if you delay going for a walk and allow children to play on their own for too long, they may start running and screaming.

Avoid being aggressive, control yourself. If you - new teacher, be patient: it will take time for the children to start listening to you.

In the camp

Children in the children's camp older and already have formed ideas about what is possible and what is not, therefore it is sometimes easier to find a common language with them than with younger children.

Basic tips:

  1. In order not to lose control over children, it is important to make sure that they are always busy with something interesting. Offer them new activities more often. It is important to consider the age of the children: what will be interesting for pre-adolescent children may seem silly to teenagers.
  2. Let them ramble for a while to relieve inner tension, but make sure that the games do not go beyond adequacy.

    It is important to have the liveliest guys on time, and then it will be easier to maintain control.

  3. From the very first hours of communication with the squad, set the right tone, define the rules. Make sure your voice is strong, but not loud or aggressive.
  4. Sound signals can also be used during calming down: many counselors have a whistle around their necks for this purpose. If there is no whistle, you can clap your hands to attract attention.

It is always easier to make decisions based on the situation, therefore teachers, including educators and counselors, it is important to be able to adapt to any circumstances.

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